Five important life lessons 2019 has reminded me of thus far…
They say the older you get, the faster time goes and as the years pass me by, I can relate to this more and more. This year started with a bang and looking back over the past three months, I cannot believe how much has already happened. I started this year with many goals and I can honestly say that I am happy with what I have achieved so far. Successfully completed some work projects I had lined up, dropped the ten kilograms I wanted to, planned and booked that bucketlist trip I have been putting off for the longest time etc. I have also seen some proper failures and bad habits I have still not kicked, so I recently took some time to look back at my 2019 progress to identify some of the important lessons I have learnt. These are not necessarily new ideas or concepts to me, but it was important for me to be reminded of their importance once again.
Celebrate the victories
The year started with many resolutions and plans, some of them achieved, some of them failed and others a work in progress. Whatever the status of my objectives, this year for the first time I am learning to become excited by the little victories. It is important that we celebrate each and every victory in our life, no matter how small. In the past, I was so focused on the next goal or the ones I failed, that I usually missed these moments; this year I am changing that.
There’s a time to fail
Not everything is going to go according to plan… you will fail at times and that is ok. I can deal with this fact; however, I get particularly frustrated with myself when I know that I have made the same mistake in the past. This year I realised that failures are not only there to teach us on how to change the way we move forward, sometimes we repeat previous mistakes to regain some focus and perspective. It keeps us humble and aware. Not all failures are bad and at times, we need to make mistakes. I am learning to let go of the messes I have created in the past and to focus my energy on what needs to be done in order to build the future I plan on having.
Reactive life vs proactive life
Being comfortable can become a very dangerous thing… When we know that we need to change something and we don’t, we live a reactive life. If you do not like something, change it. Do not simply react to whatever life throws at you, but be proactive by purposefully changing the things in your life that you do not like. It is as simple as that. I tend to overcomplicate things by overthinking and the first three months of 2019 once again showed me that I need to stop wishing for certain things and make them happen for myself. I have created a list of things that need changing and I have started to take action to ensure that it happens.
It’s all in the mind
If you lose the battle in your mind, you have lost the battle. I am truly starting to get this in my professional as well as personal life. This year, I have become very focused on the things that I think about. When we take inventory of our thoughts, we soon make the connection between negative thinking and negative realities in our lives. You become what you think. You experience what you anticipate. Fact.
When you care and compare too much
Again, I have heard this so many times before, however 2019 up to now once again showed me this. The reason why one should not compare your life to that of someone else is because… one, you only see what that person allows you to see and usually that does not include failure and heartache… two, we all have different paths and circumstances and you will completely miss yours if you try to live someone else’s life… Not comparing myself to others is not the most difficult thing for me; however, I am too concerned of other people’s opinions of me. Thing is, we all want to be liked, we all want to be respected, we all want to be seen as good people, however the need for approval can stop us from being who we really want to be, saying what we really want to say and doing what we know we should be doing.
In a few weeks I will be heading off on a new RoamingRucksack adventure and I am hoping that this time away, as well as these important lessons, will help me reevaluate and determine my path.
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